Let me be so incredibly clear: simply put, some people are evil and wicked. Some people lie, cheat and steal (and don’t let them be the trifecta doing all three!) to get whatever the hell they want and they don’t care about anybody else’s feelings but their own. Actually, they don’t even care about their own feelings! They care about what the want. What they get. Feelings?! What are those?!?!
I was speaking with a client as they were preparing for discharge from the detox facility where I work, discussing their eagerness, excitement, apprehension, and joy to return from the detox facility– their temporary home for the past couple of weeks in close community with people who intimately know their struggles with addiction– to their own home. Standing tall, they said: “[When I go home,] I’m remaining firmly grounded in peace [stomps left foot] and serenity [stomps right foot].”
The strength to overcome your challenges lies within you– not without you! By daring to do one thing differently or to ask for the support you want or need to overcome your addiction, you open the door to the life and future you want. The present you desire.
Unaddressed wounds don’t heal. If I cut my arm severely but don’t acknowledge it, it won’t heal, it’s get worse! And healing hurts. After I notice the wound, I have to clean it so it doesn’t get infected and it stings. Whether I apply pressure to stop the bleeding or clean it with alcohol, it’s gonna hurt. But the hurt doesn’t last forever. It’s temporary.
